Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Pacifier v.s. Thumb

This is such a popular debate and I hear many different ideas and beliefs on both sides. I personally have two daughters and each of them do something different. My oldest sucks her thumb and has done so from about 3 months old. My husband tried so hard to deter it, but it never really bothered me so I didn't enforce the issue. I truly believed that it made no difference and if she was going to have an overbite she would have one anyway so I let it go. My youngest daughter uses a pacifier and has used one since the day we brought her home from the hospital. She is now six months old and will cry for hours if she does not have it. I go out in public and have people stop me and say "you know she shouldn't be sucking her thumb right?" to which I reply "do you want to try and make her stop?". They quickly learn their place and move on. I have noticed here lately that my thumb sucker has a bit of an overbite. I have been assured by her dentist that a long as she quits by the time her new teeth grow in that she will be fine. I don't know how true that is, however, I do know the conveniences of having a thumb sucker. For starters you never "lose" their thumb. I lose pacifiers on a regular basis which leaves me with a cranky baby unless I buy more. Secondly I don't have to constantly place the pacifier in her mouth while driving. The baby will cry and cry until I pull over and place the pacifier in. My oldest just puts her thumb in her mouth and falls asleep. I guess the true test will be whether or not I will have to purchase braces. At this time I can honestly say I don't have a true answer as to which is better. I believe that the parent makes the best decision for themselves which is pretty much how I feel about most things in life. I don't agree with overly opinionated people who try and push their ideas of what is "right" off on to others. Being a parent is tough and deciding how to raise your child is even tougher so when someone comes up to you and tries to offer their advice it can make it seem as if everything you are doing is wrong. Keep your head up, stick to your gut, and don't be afraid to make mistakes.

1 comment:

  1. Hello Amber...interesting post! I think that by the time you do try to wean them from their "suckers", it will be easier with the younger one since you can actually take it away (even though she's not going to like that!). I would imagine the older one would be more difficult because you can't just take her thumb away. My son was sucking his thumb in almost all of the 3D sonograms pics and videos. When he was born he kept jabbing his eyeballs trying to get that thumb back in their! When I got to see him after my recovery, he had a pacifier! I was outraged! What is this? The nurse told me he needed it to calm him. I didn't like the idea, but I went with it. He'd only suck a certain kind too, which was frustrating when I needed to buy a new one and not everyone carried it. By the time he was about 2 1/2 I felt he needed to be taken off the paci. It broke my heart to hear him scream himself to sleep when I could just give it to him. I had to stay strong knowing I wasn't harming him, just trying to help. He only cried the first 3 nights, after that, it was done! I was surprised he didn't try his thumb when I took it away. He never thought of it! lol